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Don't feel guilty for desiring comfort & healing!
All wounds hurt, no matter how small they might seem.
The other day my daughter came running inside, tears streaming down her face. She was sobbing so much and I was afraid something terrible happened. I asked her calmly what was wrong and she shows me the tiniest cut on her hand. She had tripped and hurt herself. She was absolutely beside herself with grief.
To her, this small wound meant the world to her. In her mind, she had been hurt beyond relief and all she wanted was comfort.
Do I tell her that there are wounds much worse? Do I tell her to “suck it up” because it was barely a mark? Do I tell her that she doesn’t know true pain until she’s endured child birth?
No.
Because it doesn’t matter if there are a lot more worse things that can happen. In this specific moment, all that mattered was that she was hurt. So I gave her the comfort she wanted and put a bandaid on it. Instantly she wiped her tears, hugged me, and ran back outside to play.
We can relate to this story a lot, can’t we? When we get hurt, sometimes we tell ourselves that it “could be worse” so we don’t deal with it. We just let it fester and fester...
But even a small wound can get infected and get much worse!
Why do we do this?
Because we feel guilty. We feel bad for wanting comfort because we watch how others still manage to get things done without it. We feel bad for wanting someone to help us heal because others have it worse. We feel like our pain is insignificant compared to others. So we guilt trip ourselves! It’s all about our perception. We assume things that may not be true.
But I’m here to tell you that you do not have to feel guilty for wanting healing and comfort. Your pain, your trauma, and your wounds are just as important as someone else’s. I want to challenge you to change your perspective and consider what might happen if you received the comfort and healing you desire.
And it’s never too late.
It doesn’t matter if you suffered yesterday or 10 years ago. If you haven’t healed, then it’s never too late.
Does this sound like you? Do you find yourself guilting yourself when you want help and need it?
With mercury retrograde around the corner, these feelings will rise way up to the surface. Are you prepared for it?
What can I do to help you with this? Leave a comment or connect with me on Facebook to let me know!
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Jenny Lynn Rice
July 15, 2021
I went through something very traumatic when I was 19. It left me with severe PTSD. Retrograde always brings up certain emotions, but also so does this time of year. I tend to pull away and hide, sometimes for 2 full months. Someone who started as my mentor and became family started ridiculing me and would stop talking to me because she couldn’t handle the negativity. Last month she started in and I refused to listen. It got ugly and ended with her walking away after telling me that family doesn’t give up on each other. I would have to be the one to leave. Just like everyone else, she jumped ship. So right now, I’m having an incredibly difficult time and nobody wants to hear it, including my husband. So I’m stuffing, and stuffing because I’m tired of feeling guilty for having emotions. I don’t want anyone around me anymore. Why can’t I just be allowed to feel the emotions, move through them and not find myself completely alone, all blame heaped on me? I don’t feel loved, loveable, or even liked. I feel tolerated and that is the worst.